"...But I do not like your Christians, they are so unlike your Christ." -random bumper sticker wisdom
Sadly wisdom that I have had the misfortune of funding to be true. Myself included.
I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element.I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration, I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-humanized. If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. if we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.